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Monday, 18 July 2011

Busting myths... in real life

So many things going on today.

First and foremost... it is my second wedding anniversary today. There have been some days that I'm not sure we'll make another day, but I really did marry the man I truly love, so I guess it's worked out pretty well ;)

In terms of the ovulation, I don't know what is going on at this point. I was sure that I had ovulated two days ago, but then yesterday and today my temps were at 36.2, and I've got eggwhite CF showing up again. I took an ovulation predictor and it says no ovulation in the next 24 hours. I guess I will just keep monitoring it and see what happens. Perhaps I had ovulated two days ago after all and my temps are just not highly spiked. I have read a few things that have said that not everyone experiences constant high temps after ovulation. So I guess we'll see. :S

Now on to the myths... I went for lunch today with one of my friends who was also one of my bridesmaids. We got talking after a while about the ovulation and fertility thing. So, I told her what I had been dealing with, and that I thought that I had maybe ovulated, so was keeping my fingers crossed. She informed me that we should apply to adopt because then we'd get pregnant right away. Sigh! I actually told her that wasn't the way it worked. She said that that was what happened to other couples she knew, so there must be something to it. She had also told me to just relax and it would happen.

It's so frustrating! This woman has had her own share of fertility issues. She miscarried due to lack of progesterone during the first trimester. This happened to her twice, so you would think that she would know the horrors of conception problems. She has two adorable kids now. She actually said at one point "you can't know this, but they honestly having kids makes you feel complete". Gee thanks.

I really like this person, but the whole conversation was difficult and hurtful. I wish that I had had the guts to tell her how it made me feel, but I"m not that strong.

:(

3 comments:

M

Urgh. I want to slap people who say "just relax and it will happen." Yeah, sure. This is just the most important thing in the world to me and I'll die inside if it doesn't happen. Why wouldn't I be able to relax? Feh.

I'm sorry your conversation was so frustrating. I think some people just don't know what to say when confronted with a friend's infertility, so they toss around the old cliches, thinking it will make you feel better.

As for the ovulation thing...I'm pretty sure I ovulated on cd15. That's when my temperature spiked. Yesterday my temperature went back down to the cover line and I freaked out a bit, but today it went back up. Sometimes our temps just do weird things, I guess.

peg

I read on a medical site that it is common for some women to have their temps drop a couple of times below the coverline, even during pregnancy, so it's not out of the ordinary.

I guess I just expected more from this friend given all the problems that she's had in the past. I thought she would be a bit more considerate in what she was saying... but I guess not :(

Willow

Happy anniversary!

Also, your friend sounds pretty awful. I mean, I'm sure she's a nice person overall, but I think I'd be avoiding her while TTC--or at least avoid talking to her about it, since she seems unwilling/unable to offer sympathy. Which is a shame, given that she's dealt with IF too! I'm sorry she wasn't more supportive--sometimes people just suck!

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